Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Conflicts

Conflict is a state of opposition, disagreement or incompatibility between two or more people or groups of people. It can be characterized by physical violence.
There are lots of types of conflicts. Perhaps the most popular ones are: intrapersonal, emotional, group, organisational, international conflicts... There are three main components to the emotions that are intertwined with a conflict. They are:
Behavioral- The way emotional experience gets expressed which can be verbal or non-verbal and intentional or un-intentional;
Physiological- The bodily experience of emotion. The way emotions make us feel in comparison to our identity;
Cognitive- The idea that we “assess or appraise” an event to reveal its relevancy to ourselves.
These three advise that the meanings of emotional experience and expression are determined by cultural values, beliefs and practices. There are the constructive and destructive way to solve a conflict (destructive usually doesn't solve the conflict, because both sides that are conflicting to each other don't admit their fault and usually ignore each other or just yell at each other, making the conflict even bigger). So, if you truly want to solve the conflict in a peacful way, you should choose the constructive way, though it's sometimes hard to do it because some of the people are just too choleric and overdetermined. Just try to LISTEN and HEAR what people are not happy about when thay are talking abaout you, try to think and admit the accusations and make the right conclusions out of them. And if you accuse somebody for doing something in a wrong way, do it very carefully, because you may hurt or provoke the other side.

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